In my last post, I talked about the importance of knowing what you want in a partner. I even threatened to have Rona come up with her own list of qualities she was looking for in a mate. Well, here it is. Rona and I sat down last week and went over some of the things that have been plaguing her relationships all these years. I asked her, (just play along), if she could list all of the traits she would want in a life partner, what would they be? Her answers were as follows:
Rona's Personal Vision of Love
He would have to like the same television shows I like...and more importantly to hate the same ones I hate.
He would need to be somewhat affectionate, but not smothering.
He would need to understand that my rear end does not need to be swatted simply because it enters his vicinity.
He would need to like most of the same music that I like...and as with television, hate the same music I hate.
He would need to be somewhat adventurous. Note, adventurous has nothing to do with being open to playing a different video game than you're used to playing. For God's sake, get off the damned couch.
He would need to be ambitious enough to look for ways to improve himself without my constant prodding.
He would need to be fairly self-sufficient, at least to the degree that I am.
He would need to actually talk and listen when we are trying to have a conversation. It would be nice to feel as though speaking with one another and enjoying it was an option.
He would need to understand that I am not prone to sitting back and relaxing. I like to be busy and I like to be doing something that means something. Oh, and it would be nice if he were somewhat interested in doing something meaningful as well.
He would need to be at least as intelligent as I am. I'm no genius, but I really hate spelling things out for people. It tends to dampen my mood when I have to explain something simple to a grown person.
Lastly, he would need to understand that I am nobody's mother. Especially not his.
Whew! Well, I'd like to say that Rona is on the right track with this, and I guess, she might be. At least she knows what she wants. In my latest Rona Shively book, This Side Up, Rona is struggling with some serious relationship anxiety. After reading the book, let me know if you think she might be on the right track with her list or if she should just hang it up altogether. You can buy the book at my website or at Amazon or Barnes & Noble.
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Saturday, February 20, 2010
Rona's Vision of Love...
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Labels: choosing a partner, men, relationships, Rona Shively, This Side Up, vision, women
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Looking for something entertaining for your library or bookstore patrons? Looking for a fun way to spend a couple of hours? Do you love mysteries? Then you need to schedule a Tea & Mystery event for your library or bookstore! The fee is minimal and the presentation is fun and informative! Attendees will be given the chance to win great prizes and share their thoughts about the mystery genre and their favorite mystery writers!
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